Self confidence should be an art form in itself. There is no right or wrong way of feeling comfortable with one’s self, hence why there is an endless list of possibilities.
But for me, this feeling comes and goes. I wasn’t always the ‘pudgy’ kid when I look back on photos from when I was five or six. But fast forward to age nine or ten, I was bigger than the rest of the girls in my class. No one called me out on it, but I knew. And it was the worst feeling ever. From that age, I always struggled with my appearance. I was just average. I remember wishing that I would be super skinny, or waking up with different coloured eyes than the rest of the kids at school. But there was no change, no overnight miracle.
It’s a wonder how I got through all those years at school but there was one thing I’d drilled into my head and it was that confidence was all down to how you looked. The more attractive you were, the more confident you were. And granted, that might be the case… but I later learned that there was much more to it.
Confidence is not one dimensional- there are so many little components that make up this umbrella. Imagine having an empty glass, the more water you pour into it, the more full it gets. Like being confident.
For me, self confidence is when I help a kid at work understand a concept they found tricky. Or walking instead of taking the damn bus or getting a lift. Or cleansing my face. Or having fruit for breakfast. Or helping someone get the door.Or doing the thing I said I was going to do but never ended up doing but did. And so on, the list is endless.Heck, even when I wear a face full of makeup AND IT LOOKS FANTABULOUS, I do feel like I could slay. But again, that’s just one of many infinite possibilities on how you could feel more confident in yourself.
I wish I could tell my younger self to focus more on the things that made me happy, rather than focusing on the opinions of other people. I’m pretty sure I would’ve been pretty self confident.
Note: This ice cream and many others like it gave me confidence because it tasted damn good, left me feeling happy and I wanted more.